I am first generation born Vietnamese American. My parents are refugees who paid their way onto a fishing boat to escape Vietnam in the late 70’s. I grew up in a “do as I say” type of culture. In my culture, women are submissive and they just do as they are asked. I always felt like I had to live up to that submissive role. Up until my late 30’s, I was afraid to question and talk about things that were not of my norm. I wanted to change that and help others embrace their true self.
Of course, I too, followed in my family’s foot steps. I did not want to bring shame to the family. So, I worked in the family nail salon and restaurant business. As a nail tech, I enjoyed talking to people about their relationships and relationship dynamics. I wanted to understand how a person worked and what motivated them. I was giving out free advice while discovering that I was patient , a good listener, and gave really good feedback. After 16 years as a nail tech, I thought to myself:
And this is where my journey begins! Only took me like 12 years of education and training but here I am! I wanted to encourage and have a safe and affirming spot where we can talk about all the topics even the uncomfortable ones!